Summary: The Just Enduring Child Loss Bereavement Box is a carefully curated physical toolkit designed by bereaved parents for families navigating the immediate, overwhelming trauma of losing a child. Each item inside, from the First Days & Weeks Care Card and Practical Roadmap to sensory self-care tools, a memory journal, remembrance items, and a physical release object, serves a specific purpose in supporting parents through acute grief. This page provides an in-depth breakdown of the box contents, optional specialized guides for siblings, an unboxing video overview, and a direct request form for parents, family, friends, and caregivers.
The Just Enduring Bereavement Box
A Physical Toolkit for Survival
When a child dies, the world stops instantly. For parents, the hours, days, and weeks that follow are consumed by an overwhelming, physical, and cognitive shock. The grief fog settles in – a profound state of trauma where basic decision-making feels impossible, simple tasks feel insurmountable, and standard advice falls completely flat.
At Just Enduring, we understand this space because we have lived it. Our organization was founded by parents who have walked through the unbearable reality of losing a child. We know that in those initial moments, you do not need generic hospital flyers, clinical checklists, or well-intentioned but empty platitudes. You need understanding, clarity, and tangible tools designed by people who know what your mind and body are going through.
The Just Enduring Bereavement Box is not a collection of paperwork. It is a physical toolkit for survival, carefully chosen, tested, and vetted by bereaved parents to offer real, practical, and emotional support when you need it most.
“We created the Bereavement Box because we remember opening empty hands in the darkest hours of our lives. Every item inside exists to support parents during the worst time of their lives.”
– Ben Gillham, Co-Founder of Just Enduring & Jackson’s DaD
What’s Inside the Bereavement Box
Every item inside the Just Enduring Bereavement Box carries a specific purpose. We selected each component based on direct experience with trauma, physical nervous system overload, and the unique emotional needs of grieving parents.
Care & Guidance
- First Days & Weeks Care Card
- Step-by-Step Guide
- Memory Catcher Journal
Remembrance
- Butterfly Connection Charms
- Breakable Candle Holder
- Magnet Photo Frame
- Silenced Grief Wristband
Self-Care
- Sensory Tool
- Eye Masks
For Siblings
(Optional)
- Sibling Grief Guide
Watch the Unboxing Video
Opening a package during acute grief can feel daunting. To help you, a loved one, or a professional caregiver understand exactly how these items are presented and used, we have created a simple unboxing video.
Request a Bereavement Box
Whether you are a parent currently facing loss, a friend or family member searching for a meaningful way to show support, or a caregiver (such as a nurse, social worker or funeral director), you can request a box below.
All boxes are provided free of charge, supported by our community of donors.
As a growing organization, we are presently only able to ship within the contiguous 48 U.S. states. If you live outside this area, please contact us directly so we can explore the best ways to support you.
Sponsor a Bereavement Box
Please consider making a gift or becoming a recurring monthly donor to help us keep these child loss bereavement boxes completely free for families in need. Every year, thousands of families face the devastating loss of a child. Your donation helps ensure that another grieving family receives a bereavement box at no cost during their darkest days.
More About Each Item
Care & Guidance
1. First Days & Weeks Care Card
In the immediate aftermath of loss, trauma significantly reduces the brain’s ability to process complex information. Reading long paragraphs or managing multi-step directions can feel overwhelming. The First Days & Weeks Care Card offers direct, bite-sized, low-cognitive guidance. It focuses strictly on immediate physical and emotional survival.
2. Navigating Child Loss: A Step-by-Step Guide
Beyond the physical shock, families face a complex wave of practical choices, social interactions, and logistical decisions. The Step-by-Step Guide is a comprehensive guide that gently addresses these hurdles over the coming weeks and months, as well as how to remember their child for years to come.
3. Memory Catcher Journal
Preserving memories can feel urgent and terrifying for parents who fear forgetting even the smallest details of their child’s life. The Memory Catcher Journal provides a beautiful, non-judgmental space created specifically for this purpose.
Whether you write full pages, record short bullet points, doodle, or glue in small mementos, this journal gives you a permanent space to hold onto your thoughts, record daily memories, and speak directly to your child.
You do not have to process everything today. The roadmap is there for when you are ready,
one small step at a time.
Remembrance
1. Butterfly Connection Charms
Physical connection is often what parents miss most intensely. The Butterfly Connections Charms set includes three stainless steel pieces:
- A delicate, solid butterfly charm meant to stay with your child (for burial, cremation, or as part of their resting place).
- Two round charms with butterfly cutouts designed for the parents to wear or keep close.
The butterfly cutout directly matches the solid charm, providing a lasting, physical symbol that you are forever surrounding your child with love, no matter where you are.
2. Breakable Candle Holder
We offer a candle holder to mark special occasions, bring comfort in difficult moments, remind you of the love you carry for your child, or be destroyed into many pieces.
Whichever one helps you grieve. We understand.
3. Magnet Photo Frame
The photo frame can be placed where you can keep your child’s memory close each day, while a car magnet bearing the words “Forever Loved, Never Forgotten” honors your enduring bond and carries their light with you wherever you go.
4. Silenced Grief Wristband
Navigating public spaces – grocery stores, workplaces, community events – after child loss can be excruciating. Explaining your reality over and over to acquaintances takes immense energy.
Our simple wristband offers a quiet, wordless way to honor your grief in public settings. It serves as a personal touchstone for you and a gentle signal to those who recognize it, allowing you to move through the world without needing to explain your pain out loud.
Self-Care
1. Sensory Tool
The grief will feel overwhelming. Grounding with a sense of touch helps when words aren’t enough. Resting comfortably in your palm, it provides a quiet physical anchor to help ease anxiety and calm your mind in heavy moments.
2. Eye Masks
We understand there will be times when no one else seems to comprehend your pain, and the outside world becomes too heavy to face. This eye mask gives you permission to step back, shut out the noise, and retreat into a quiet, gentle space dedicated entirely to you and your memories.
For Siblings
A Parent’s Guide to Helping Children Grieve the Death of a Sibling
Surviving brothers and sisters process loss in very different ways depending on their developmental age. They may cycle rapidly between intense sadness and normal play, or express their grief through changes in behavior, regression, or anxiety.
Our Sibling Grief Guide provides parents and caregivers with actionable, compassionate strategies to support surviving children.
Frequently Asked Questions About the Bereavement Box
Who can request a Just Enduring Bereavement Box?
Bereavement boxes can be requested by grieving parents, family members, friends, or caregivers (such as social workers, nurses, clergy, therapists or funeral home directors) who wish to provide tangible support to a family experiencing child loss.
Is there any cost to receive a Bereavement Box?
No. Just Enduring provides these boxes free of charge to families and care providers, supported entirely through donations and community partnerships.
Are specialized resources provided to support siblings?
Yes. When filling out the request form, you can opt to include our specialized Sibling Guide to help brothers and sisters process their grief.
How quickly are the Bereavement Boxes shipped?
Our team of volunteers is notified as soon as you submit your form. We personally package each bereavement box and ship it. You can expect to receive it within 5 to 14 days of your request.
Written by Ben Gillham
This page was written by Ben Gillham, President and Co-Founder of Just Enduring. Like many on our team, Ben’s dedication to this mission is rooted in the personal reality of child loss, specifically the loss of his son, Jackson.
By combining first-hand experience with a mission to help parents live and love after the loss of a child, Ben ensures that Just Enduring’s support remains shaped by the actual journey of grief, rather than just the theory of it. At Just Enduring, we believe the most powerful help comes from those who have walked this path themselves.